The Stove

21st May 2012

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Hookups are sadly cunnilingus free

sexpositive:

While looking at college dating and sexual behavior, it is easy to see that hook-ups are a major form of intimacy and dating between people. There have been studies about how hook-ups relate to alcohol, sexual assault, sexually transmitted infections, and sexual pleasure. Most recently, a study is looking at oral sex satisfaction among college age women. The results are in:

In study recently published in Journal of Sex Research, sociologists Laura Backstrom, Elizabeth A. Armstrong, and Jennifer Puentes interviewed 43 college women (including 15 from Indiana University) about their experiences hooking up with men.  In these interviews, most noted that they viewed cunnilingus (oral sex performed for a woman) as intimate and emotional, thus more desirable within a relationship  But, among those who desire it with men they hook up with, they are often frustrated to find that cunnilingus is not a regular part of the routine for hookups.  In fact, some noted the common disappointment they face when they performed oral sex for their partners that was not reciprocated with cunnilingus.

There’s an inequality in hookups, and it seems that while men are receiving oral sex, women are sadly not receiving oral sex in a reciprocal manner. Hook-up culture can lead to an unbalanced satisfaction, since generally if both people know it’s a one night deal, they focus on getting the most pleasure out of the experience, and not taking the time to learn what it is that their partner desires, since they may not sleep with them again.

However, if women feel empowered enough to ask their partners for oral sex, these numbers may rise. And to men who would like to perform oral sex on their hook-up partner, ask and go for it! Let’s not aim to have disappointed sexual partners!

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Source: sexpositive